If executed well, flirting can actually take you far. However, many have yet to grasp the art of being subtle yet charming in the act of wooing someone.
Here are a few tips that might work:
1. Start With An Honest Approach
The key to approaching someone you like is pretty simple: be respectfully upfront and avoid coming across as a creep. You're most likely to get a positive response if you seem genuine and sincere.
Example:
• “You look cool, so I thought I’d come over and say hi.”
• “Hey I’ve seen you a few times, don’t you think it’s time we met. My name is (y/n) and yours?”
• “I hope I’m not being too forward, but I saw you from across the room and wanted to introduce myself.”
2. Or If You Have The Personality For It, Be Funny
Be cheesy if you want even, but only in an acceptable amount, or you'll risk being the laughing stock of the group chats. The thing about cheesy or funny pick-up lines is that they are not meant to be taken seriously. If you want to roll that way, make sure the person on the receiving end could clearly tell you're being playful, or it's just going to get awkward.
Example:
• (If she’s wearing a very ‘girly’ outfit like a dress or skirt) “Oh my god! I was going to wear that same outfit tonight!”
• “My buddies bet me that I wouldn’t be able to start a conversation with the most beautiful girl in the bar. Wanna buy some drinks with their money?”
• “You know…if your other boyfriend doesn’t show, I’ll be sitting over there looking all tall, dark, and handsome.”
3. What NOT To Say When You're Trying To Flirt
Leave dirty jokes and sexual innuendos behind if you're serious about making a move. Also, even if you have a low self-esteem, try not to show it. Lastly, don't be entitled, and you're good to go.
Example:
• Any dirty pick-up lines. C'mon, be classy,
• “This is your lucky day because I just happen to be single.”
• “Hi, I just wanted to give you the satisfaction of turning me down. So, just go ahead and say no.”
Ultimately, flirting isn't necessary— if you're genuine from the get go, chances of you making it work can get fairly high given that you're...you know, not an asshole.
