Families are the working cells of society. There's a saying that goes like this, "A lucky person's childhood make up their entire lives, but an unlucky person uses their entire lives to make up for their childhood".
The situation in which a person spends most of their time growing up is extremely important, and even though every family makes mistakes every now and then, here are some telltale signs that a family is not doing a particularly good job most of the time.
Leading by Example
A great family will always lead by example. Whether it is the things they say or do, good parents know that their child watches their every move and that they should always be good role models for their child. They don't just talk the talk, they walk the walk.
Criticize and Scold
Bad parents will instead scream and scold their child whenever something goes wrong. Not only does this destroy their enthusiasm and motivations, it sets a bad precedence that scolding and criticizing is the norm. This will result in a never ending cycle of anger and hatred whereby your children will scold their children and so on.
Positive and Optimistic Conversations
Good families will be aware of their children's actions and behavior, then have plenty of conversation to guide and help their child with their problems. They will provide encouragement and motivation when something goes wrong.
Negative and Pessimistic Conservations
On the other hand, a negative family will only see the bad in their child. Comparing their child to peers and shooting their ideas down. They're authorative and will not listen to their children's advice or opinions, which in turn sends a signal that they don't care.
Quality Companionship
A commendable home will always give the child sufficient accompaniment. They focus on their child but are aware not to overstep. They are there most of the time but give their child enough freedom. Not only will this fill their childhood with great memories, it gives them what humans most desire - companionship.
Lack of Interactions and Quality Time
A subpar family will not take their children's time seriously. To them, their work and relaxation time trumps spending time with their child. In this day and age, parents meeting their child for less than an hour a day is slowly becoming the norm. How do we expect to understand our child if we don't even talk to them?
Frequent Showing of Love
Good families are not afraid to showcase their love. They're not shy to let their children know of their affection, whether it is by showering them with compliments, buying them gifts, or just something as simple as saying "I love you". This gives the child a sense of security while teaching them how to love and be loved.
Not Willing to Display Affection
Meanwhile, bad families rarely showcase their love. It could be because they think it's not necessary, or their ego gets in the way, but the mode of communication is usually cold and serious, even though deep down they do love their children. This will eventually cause the child to distance themselves, or be depressed thinking that they are not loved by even their own families.
What do you think? What kind of family did you grow up in? What kind of family would you like to provide your children with in the future?
