When it comes to having better sex, the first thing that comes into mind might be having good foreplay, using oils and lubricants, or maybe even trying out new sex positions. Although these things do help, there are plenty of other seemingly unrelated things that definitely do affect our sex lives. Here are a list of things you can do or practice to improve your in-bed experience.

#Learn to Communicate Better

Repeat after me: communication is lubrication. That's right, learning to communicate better will make any interaction (including sex) between you and your partner go more smoothly. To communicate better can mean many things but in general, we should learn to express how we feel at any time using the right words and right emotions.

When we learn to express our thoughts and feelings, we remove the need for our partners to guess how we're feeling or doubt us. When we use simple and correct words, we will not have to worry about our message not being conveyed correctly. When our emotions are well under control, it prevents many unnecessary conflicts.

All these translate into our sexual life. We can more openly discuss about our kinks and fetishes, what we like and don't like during sex. Sadly, many people continue to have sex that they do not enjoy in fear of their partner's disappointment or anger. By learning to speak up for yourself, you will better fulfill your sexual needs and desires. If your partner is unable to accept it, then perhaps it's better to know that you two are sexually incompatible now than after years of marriage.

#Study Body Language

You've heard of plenty uses of body language, whether it is to gauge your audience's reaction while public speaking, to tell if your client is interested during a meeting, or to catch if someone is lying. Our bodies are extremely honest because we do not usually consciously control every single part of our body.

Even while reading this, you head might be turning left to right (or up to down) ever so slightly without you noticing. By taking note of the way people stand and fold their arms, we can make a good guess of how they're feeling at that moment.

If you have tuned your mind to look for these subtle hints, then you can greatly improve your sexual "skills", especially if your partner is not as vocal. Most of the time, it's not about who's faster and longer or who has a more playful tongue, but whether you're hitting the right spot. Pay attention for deeper breathes, small twitches, soft moans and grunts, and clenching fists and toes. That's how you know you're doing it right without needing your partner to tell you so (because they're too busy enjoying).

#Be More Mindful

Being mindful doesn't mean meditating more, but it does help. It is the art of being aware of your surroundings and more importantly, yourself. An example would be when you're feeling mad. If you are aware of that emotion, then you're already on the path of solving the problem. You can then think about why you're mad and what can you do to remove or change the thing that is making you mad.

If meditating is not your thing, you can try this simple exercise. Every now and then, just be aware of the feeling of things you are in contact with. For example, be mindful about how your back is actually feeling because you're not sitting properly. Be mindful about how tired your fingers actually are after supporting your phone for such a long time. Be aware of how the material of your clothes feel on your body. When practiced correctly, it has the benefits of amplifying good things and easily rectifying bad things happening to you.

When it comes to sex, many people overthink. They think about whether they're doing the position correctly, about how to last longer, or about whether they should fake an orgasm. These are distractions from actually feeling the pleasure of sex. Next time, pay attention to how your partner's lips feel when they kiss different parts of your body, or how warm or cool your partner's skin is whenever it touches your body. You'll enjoy the entire process more this way and maybe have even stronger orgasms.

So, these 3 skills can and should be practice whether or not you have an active sex life. They can greatly improve your day to day life experiences, but better sex is also a major plus!