Do you always get shut down in a heated argument? Play the mind game with these 5 psychology tricks & you will never lose again.

1- Sit close

Source: Instagram

Unless this is a fist fight, quickly sit close to your opponent like your lover, boss, or friend. It's difficult for them to confront you aggressively when you close the distance between your bodies. 

Plus, sitting down gives the idea that you're collected, less defensive & ready to talk. It also calms the other person down if he/she is bursting with emotions. Just make sure they're not physically harmful. 

2- Decide their type 

Source: Instagram

Before you go to war, make out the type of person they are. Basically, there are two kinds: reactive or analytical. Here's how to deal with each:

- Reactive: Focus more on emotions/empathy

- Analytical: Focus more on logic/analysis

If you're already familiar with the person, you would already know which category he/she falls under. For strangers, try to guess from what & how they are arguing. 

Learn more here. 

3- Use your opponent's words

Source: Instagram

Don't just attack with points from your side. Listen, connect & use their arguments to divert their memory. You can use these phrases:  'As you've mentioned before...', 'Like you said just now...' or 'From what you're saying...'. Link your arguments following these prompts.

Your opponent will feel heard & be more open to hear you out. Plus, this method tricks them into thinking that you actually agree with them. 

4- Eyes up here

Source: Instagram

If the argument is pretty much one-sided & you can't get a word in, do this. Keep your eye contact but switch between staring into their eyes & the centre of their forehead. No angry eyes though! A neutral gaze will do. 

This makes them feel flustered in a way & unable to keep track of their thoughts. 

When it gets really awkward, they will fall silent. Now, you can serve your strong points on the table.

5- Throw in subtle questions

Source: Instagram

This one's from the master himself, Socrates! Use questions to make your opponent feel that you're really trying to understand their stance.

Don't simply accuse them with statements. 

Also, whenever you put your points forward, follow up with questions like "Isn't that the case?" This will give them a choice of response. So, they'll feel less threatened.  You can end even end the whole argument in a friendly way. 

Say what you mean, but don't say it mean. -unknown