Contrary to what we see in porn, sex is anything but simple. There are so many parts of it and so many factors to get it right. You'd need to be mentally excited, not physically exhausted, and even have the right time and place to do it (especially if you're married).
One thing that does help with sex, though, is dirty talk. It can ignite sexual desires, increase the fun, and works perfectly for both men and women. But, be careful what you say, because that fiery sex can turn into a heated argument in a split second. Here are 6 NO NOs during sex:
#1 Urging to Finish
Sex isn't a timed activity, but sometimes a quickie in the morning can bring some spice into your life. However, imagine if all your partner says is "I only have 5 minutes" or "how much longer do you need?". That is going to kill any desire faster than you could even finish.
#2 Comparing with the Ex
Whether in sex or any other part of the relationship, it is almost a taboo to compare your current partner with any of your exes. That goes the same for comparing yourself with their exes. Sure, you can make fun of them together, but never ask "am I better than your ex?" or "did your ex ever do this to you?". I mean, do you REALLY want to know the answer?
#3 Constantly Asking About It
From time to time, part of your dirty talk routine could be to ask whether they've orgasmed or if something you're doing "feels good". However, don't make it into an interview by asking every minute. Learn to read the signs of your partner's body and you'll be able to tell if you're doing it right.
#4 Being Totally Quiet
Speaking of, don't be totally quiet (unless, of course, you guys are trying something exciting and don't want to get caught). Your partner relies on audio cues to know what's good for you. Moan, shout, talk without being prompted and your partner will thank you for that!
#5 Saying The Wrong Name
Do I even need to explain this one? Say the wrong name and the ruined sex should be the last thing to worry about. Worry about your entire relationship.
#6 Other Conversations
Whatever we do, we should do it whole-heartedly and with focus. This includes sex. Don't talk about your day in the middle of the action, or ask about what's for breakfast tomorrow. Not only will this distract your partner from enjoying sex, it shows that you're not paying full attention to them.
It's hard to say that there is a wrong and right way for sex as every single person experiences sex differently. However, these are just some things that we believe 99% of people don't enjoy hearing during sex. Most importantly, talk to your partner about sex when you're NOT HAVING SEX, because remember, communication is lubrication!
