Do you feel insecure in your relationship? If you are unsure and need constant reassurance of your other half, you're probably insecure in your relationship. Insecurity in a relationship will become a burden that could wear out the love in it. Constant reassurance, too, will lead your other half into thinking that you do not trust him or her, thus causing argument and misunderstanding. It has been said that most girls are insecure, but this can happen to boys too!
So here are some advises that these insecure couples need to know:
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1. Don't assume what others are thinking
Let's face the fact, you are not a mind reader, neither are we. Everything must be communicated, instead of guessing and assuming. Once you start having doubts, ask, talk to your other half. It's going to be worst if you keep yourself guessing and ended up being angry and unhappy.
Just start with a simple question: What are you thinking?
After listening to his or her point of view, express your thoughts. Then and only then, both of you will understand each other better.
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2. Stop asking for constant reassurance
You are insecure, and you need your other half to keep on reminding you that they love you, isn't it tiring? Try to imagine your other half ask you these questions every day:
"Do you love me?" "Do you feel happy when you're with me?" "Would you break up with me if..."
Of course, your other half will be annoyed with these questions if they were been asked daily. If you have no confidence in yourself, how can someone give you the confidence that only you can give it to yourself?
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3. Enjoy every moment you have with your other half
Some insecure couples will always think about breaking up. Not that they wanted to break up, it's just that the insecurity will convince him or her that her other half will be disgusted with him or her one day. So throw away all these toxic thoughts and enjoy every moment you have with your other half.
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4. Don't complicate things
I understand that it is especially sensitive if you're insecure. You might overthink and ended up complicating a simple thing. For example, if your other half is busy and forgot to reply to your message, it's just a normal situation for people. But, insecure people would probably complicate the situation by overthinking it, and this situation would most probably end with an argument.
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5. Understand yourself
Understand your love mode. What are the situations that will cause you to be insecure? Talk to your other half. Most importantly, be reasonable. You can't ask your other half to be standby for you for 24 hours. So, communicate and compromise! After all, that's what relationship is all about, right?
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There you have it! I understand that being a little insecure is normal, but if your insecurity caused pressure on your relationship, you should probably do something about it. Don't wait till it's too late that your insecurity has ruined your relationship! Everyone changes and compromises for the one they love.
