What is ghosting?

When someone you're emotionally involved with suddenly stops all communication without any form of closure, that‘s called ghosting. If you’ve been ghosted before, then you know all too well of its implications; the emotional scarring that would soon develop into trust issues— in short, it is indeed a premature heartbreak. 

So, how do you deal with it? Scroll on. 

1. Don't Even Think About Chasing Them.

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When you're ghosted, a million self-deprecating thoughts may race through your mind, and every five seconds your brain has the urge to tell you, "pick up the phone and send a text. Just one text." 

Well, don't.

When someone ghosts you, they're signaling you through their action that— and this may be a hard pill to swallow— you're not placed high enough on their list of priorities. Someone who takes your emotional well-being into consideration will never put you through such torment. 

So pick up your self-worth, and let it go. 

2. Acknowledge That This Isn't Your Fault

It's human nature to start berating yourself when something bad happens. But in the case of ghosting, it is never the fault of the victim. 

"Maybe I'm not good enough."

"Is it because of something I said?"

"Maybe s/he met someone better."

Your ghoster does not deserve this much power over you. When someone makes a conscious decision to disappear, thus robbing you of any possibility of closure; this person is showing their true colors in regards to relationships— surely, you wouldn't want to end up with someone who doesn't even have the decency to tell you, "Hey, this isn't working out."

Sounds like unpacked emotional baggage and boy, are you better off. 

3. Think Of It As A Natural Selection

 Think of it this way: this is just the universe getting rid of your failed dating experiment for you. If they had stayed longer, you'd have probably gotten too far attached and it'd have pained you much deeper. Therefore, their self-removal from your life is essentially a blessing in disguise. 

4. Confide To Someone You Can Trust 

Now, this is very crucial. Strong emotional support is what you need if you ever go through this as to prevent you from going down on an emotional spiral. Find someone who can listen without encouraging your impulsive outbursts (yes, it will likely to happen) and find someone with a mature voice so you don't end up doing something you'd regret. 

5. If You Bump Into Them, Act Unbothered

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Even if every fiber of your being is fighting to walk up to them and unleash all that you have been keeping in, don't.

The correct and mature way to do it if you ever bump into them in public is just to put on your poker face and walk the other way. If, for some reason, you can't avoid them, give them a thin smile, and then go about your day. 

It'll kill them, probably but what's more important is you're showing them that despite their departure, you're absolutely fine (even if you're faking it) and that right there is a win in itself.