Don't worry if you don't want kids, the world may crucify you, but studies have proven that in reality, you're the one winning.
Based on Psychology, women who fear pregnancy actually possesses advanced emotional intelligence.
When compared to societal standards, you not wanting to have children can be interpreted as selfish, but in actuality, it is just your psyche understanding how one choice can change everything forever.
The sciency-term for the feeling is Tokophobia.
Women who feel this way, are not just thinking about pregnancy. As a matter of fact, they're thinking about the death of their current self.
What scares them more, isn't labor pains, but their sense of self disappearing into becoming someone's mom.
Women who stand on this side of the spectrum have:
- Cognitive empathy that causes them to consider the child's experience and not just their own desires
- Future-self projection which reveals how a pregnancy can alter ambitions
- Integrated thinking which weighs biological urges against motherhood
The so-called fear, is actually one of the most rational responses to society's biggest double standard -- glorifying motherhood while at the same time ignoring the sacrifices the status comes with.
So, if you're someone battling this choice, know that you're not less than a woman who leaps blindly into motherhood.
You're just more aware, more mature and braver to ask is this right for me, instead of following a script.
