We're such complicated beings, so it's no surprise when our sex lives indirectly reflect on who we are in a person, and what is it we seek for. 

Based on Twitter, a psychologist connect sex lives to attachment styles. 

What attachment style do you have and how does that translate to the choices you make with regards to sex?

Check it out down below!

1. Anxious attachment

Uses sex as a form of trying to stay safe and connected. Sex becomes a way to not be abandoned and to be loved. 

What happens: 

- Uses sex as conflict resolution or as a substitute to emotional intimacy

- Has sex quickly in relationships

- Has instant attachment after having sex

- Uses sex as a way to reduce their own anxiety

2. Avoidant attachment

Has a general discomfort or a neural (or low) desire for sex. They fear emotional connection and can often appear distant or shutdown. 

What happens:

- Driven towards more casual relationships

- Not enjoying sex (in their head)

- A preference for sex with no emotional connection

- Avoids sex whenever possible

- Has sex because their just because their partner wants to

3. Disorganized attachment 

Has a general compulsive nature towards sex, all at once or nothing at all. Stems from a deep fear of trusting people. 

What happens:

- They tend to shut down emotional connection during sex

- Seeks intense or real casual situations 

- Is extremely into someone sexually then disappears 

- Addicted to sexual behaviors 

- Extreme shifts or changes in sex drive

4. Secure attachment

They have less anxiety or fear in relationships allows them to see sex as a way to express love. 

What happens:

- Less likely to engage in casual sex as adolescents and more comfortable + connected in long term relationships

- Uses sex as a way to bond, show affection, and connect

- Comfortable being spontaneous and experimental

- Less likely to be unfaithful/deceptive sexually

- More attentive to their partner's sexual needs

Decided yet which is you?