Years ago you might hear girls say how much they want to find a guy to date and get married, especially the older generations. Looking back into the 21st centuries, we can see many girls, mostly 90's, prefers to stay single or unmarried. What they want, is a job that pays well, while relationship is just a side dish.
Many parents could not understand why their daughters refused to get married or even get a boyfriend. So here's what we, girls from 21st centuries, have to say about why we ditch love for work.
#1 - Looking for a good job is harder than getting a boyfriend.
It is not hard to get a job, but a GOOD JOB with promising career path and uplifting working environment, that's a whole new story. And we are not talking about the female group only, even male employees struggle with the same issue. We are all living in a tough time, economy is not as good and cost of living is always going up. And therefore, this is the time where looking a good job is not just harder, but more important to us.
#2 - Once you feel good about yourself, you can get what (who) you want.
Women nowadays strive for career success. They want to make something on their own. Some might argue that women does not have to work that hard, cause they gonna get married someday, and they will start paying more attention to the family. Others might say girls shouldn't be more successful than guys, as this will make the guys feel unconfident in the relationship. These are toxic noises, built from the opinion and perceptions of the older gen on how they stereotype a gender. But don't let them get to you. Cause if you are not happy with yourself, you will not be happy in any relationship. On the other hand, once you get to where you want to be, you will feel good about yourself and then, you will know who or what you want to have in your life. Not just that you have better options with your ability, but just by the Law of Attraction, believe it or not, you will attracts one that compliments you the best.
#3 - Compared to Love, a comfortable life is more important.
As mentioned above, we know how hard it is for everyone, boys and girls, to sustain in the market as an employee. To dive back into the conservative concept of getting a man and in directly, getting support solely from a man, will only make the relationships tougher. We have to depend on ourselves more, make a living on our own. And we might have family and things that we ourselves have to support, mentally and physically. Therefore, finding a man to love is no longer our priority, but a living, is more important, and to have that, we gotta work on ourselves. Which is why we choose to be in this status.
Everyone has their own story, and we have the equal rights to write them. Don't let those noises get into your way. Remember, Love is not everything, but YOU are.
