Love, is not easy. Sometimes it is sweet, sometimes not. Especially when both of you are unable to stay in the same place together, even seeing each others everyday is as luxury. Many could not take it, and they break up. We don't want that, what we want, is a love that lasts. So, here are 7 tips for couples in long distance relationship (LDR) to keep their love lovely and lasts.
#1 | Invest in yourself and your hobbies
Although it is sad to say that the pros of LDR is that you have loads of time to yourself, but take it as a opportunity to invest back into yourself and into things that you love, like hobbies, interests etc. Learn how to be with yourself, live with yourself, so that you know what's the good to be with him/her.
#2 | Match and Plan your time
Casual all-day texts and voice or video call once in a while is good, but still, there are time when one of you is occupied with some stuff at work or family. And we know how frustrating it is hanging there alone waiting for the other person to response. So why not plan a time where you both put down everything and just listen to each other. Take it as a date night, and fall in love again and again during the call.
#3 | Keep things fresh
Get creative with simple little things in yourself or the relationship every now and then. Like change your hair style, different look, act cute, etc. Or unveil things about yourself once in a while, like your guilty pleasures, first crush, a sad pass, a weird thought, etc. What you are trying to achieve here is to make him/her wanting to see you more and fell in love with you more.
#4 | Trusts
Many of us learn this the hard way, and yet we are still learning. This is not an easy thing to do, trusts. Even if you are staying together with your spouse, this is still forever gonna be an issue, LDR might even tougher. What I would suggests are, communicate and learn. Communicate your feelings with your partner, tell them how you feel, and learn how to manage build trust in yourself and your partner.
#5 | Learn to express your feelings
I'm not saying that you need to kept telling how you feel like a weather report or like a crazy girl friend. But learn to express them whenever you feel the need to do so and in the right way. Like when you are feeling down, or sad because of something just happened let them know. So they know what to expect. There are times where the partner is in not in a good mood, and we ourselves is feeling up high and trying to share our news to them, and they just "oh, ok, good then" you. It is very easy to get triggered with this. Which is why expressing feelings is important.
#6 | Learn to observe his/her emotions
Now, this might contradict with the previous one. Since we all are expressing our feelings, why do we still need to observe? There are times we do not wish to express or do not feel the need to do so, or maybe just simply too deep into our own thoughts and forget to do so. This is the time you need to know what's happening and give respective responses. Learn to read through signs, tones, words and even a simple story they told, so that you get what is inside their head.
#7 | Create memories
Make every moment together count. Create different memories, feelings, experiences every time you two meet. At the end of the day, these memories are the root to keep both of you committed to the relationship and always looked forward to seeing each other again.
It might sounds hard and serious, but if he/she is the right person, we want to do everything we can to stay with them in every tomorrow. There's no easy way out in LOVE, you get what you give. So, stay strong and in love. And thee shall reply to your effort and love.
Cover Photo Source : Left | Middle | Right
