It’s true that there’s no greater enemy than your own self. Since young, we‘ve at times subjected ourselves to degradation, be it intentional or indirect. We put a great deal in magnifying our imperfections instead of appreciating the strengths we possess. In some ways, we often diminish our own potential due to lack of self-esteem. Overthinking, skepticism and toxicity; these are some of the harsh matters we often immerse ourselves in. The question is, how long can we keep doing this?

Regardless of all that self-loathing, it's time to put the brakes on negativity and start loving yourself instead. No matter the circumstances, only you have the power to treat yourself to a well deserved love. Here's to a better YOU.

Stop being a people pleaser

Are you a 'yes' person? If you're more focused in pleasing people for the sake of maintaining friendship or rapport, then you're not being truly honest to anyone (especially yourself). Once in a while, saying 'no' is much healthier and better than to be chasing people's validation. It doesn't mean you're being rude, it's just that you're uncomfortable or not in the mood to fulfill that favor. After all, every point has a limit. Despite saying 'no' to something, always maintain your decorum by declining the favor politely with acceptable reasons.

Take good care of yourself

Rejuvenate your dull lifestyle by injecting some sparks. Reconnect with yourself and find ways to improve your mood whether it's by having a hot bath, watching Netflix or taking a much needed nap. Don't be ashamed of treating yourself to whatever you fancy as it's a way of soothing your weary body and mind.  Self-love doesn't have to involve spending money as long as you shower yourself that extra TLC. Remember, it's the littlest things that count the most. 

Stand up for what's right 

                        

Being assertive is frowned by many because people often mistaken it for rudeness, which is absolutely false. Standing up for yourself is actually a sign of self-respect whereby you avert yourself from baseless assumptions that can tarnish your reputation. Don't be afraid to start speaking up on what you think is right, as long as you project the message in a positive tone. After all, you know yourself better than anyone else. Practice on building up the courage to speak up and notice how happier you'll feel.

Find balance between work and play

Attention workaholics! All work and play makes Jack a dull boy. Sure, hectic working commitments are unavoidable, but they can be minimized. Tell yourself that you've worked hard enough to not feel burdened with extra workload, long after you've clocked out of the office. Pressure from overworking puts a long term toll on your wellbeing if it's not rectified early. No matter how busy you are, you're always replaceable at work. So, don't be too hard on yourself and start doing things you truly enjoy, instead of piling up more workload. Don't live to work, but work to live instead.