We all have our differences in terms of opinions, choices or even perspectives in lives. These differences are what set us apart from one another, making us unique individuals. It's okay to disagree on many aspects, so long we're not involved in snarky exchanges in order to prove our points.

  
However once in a while, you may encounter exchanges where people are so keen in proving their points, while rebuffing the others. And yes, not everyone has the maturity to remain composed in such a conversation. 

You might think to yourself: how do I counter those opinions without throwing courtesy out the window?

Here are 3 useful tips you can try:

1. Listen First 

As you're too busy picking on the other person's contradicting views, you'd only aim in countering those claims, rather than actually lending your ears to understand the true meaning.

Instead of doing the above, focus on what the person has to say first. This may sound annoying, but you might end up with a more positive and productive view that will perhaps sit well with that person.

2. Don't Go the Personal Route

Especially if you're in a professional setting such as the workplace. Never touch on the other person's religious or cultural beliefs just to prove you have better points.

Doing that makes you come across as insensitive. Instead, present your views by sticking to factual and relevant points.

3. See the Good, Rather Than the Bad

Surely there has to be at least one acceptable point from the entire argument.

Be the bigger person by inserting a positive preface about the other person's initial belief, become putting across your own.

According to Speak Confident English, here are some strategies you can apply to soften the disagreement: 

- True, that is a fair point, but I have to say I disagree…...

- I respect your point but from my perspective......

- I understand where you are coming from but…...

- I’m sorry but I have to disagree with you on…...