It’s almost end of the year, have you learn the way to love yourself or are you still working on it? We all know the importance of loving yourself, but how do we love ourselves? We can start it by being gentle to ourselves. Below is the 30 days practice of learning to be gentle with yourself:
Day 1: Close your eyes and touch something which is silky smooth
For example, hair, baby skin, cat hair, silk clothes, etc., Feel the gentleness by your fingertips and flow into your heart.
Day 2: Taste every bite without distraction
Leave the phone, turn off the music and TV; enjoy your meal quietly and taste every bite without distraction.
Day 3: Listen to your favorite song first thing in the morning
Music has a powerful ability to change emotions. You can create a favorite playlist and listen to your favorite music when you wake up in the morning.
Day 4: Create an artwork
Create an artwork at will such as splattering paint and graffiti as you like regardless of if it’s done well. We don’t have to compare with others or sharing it on social networking sites
Day 5: Take a deep breath of your favorite scent
For example, perfume, candles, books, someone’s sweater etc
Day 6: Pick up an exercise you like
It’s important to keep it up. Don't follow the trend to do an exercise that you don't really like, but pick up an exercise that you really like to do and then follow through.
Day 7: Enjoy a delicious meal, if you can’t cook, call delivery
Reward yourself with your favorite food. You can cook a delicious meal for yourself or even invite someone close to you to enjoy it. If you don’t like to cook or can’t cook, call your favorite delivery!
Day 8: Drink more water than usual
Drinking water is important but many people actually do not drink enough water daily. Start to drink more water than usual today! You can also add mint, cucumber, lemon slices and other ingredients to the water.
Day 9: Nourish your body with lotion
Our body has some parts that are particularly dry and need nourishment. Put on some lotion to nourish the parts of your body that need special care tonight.
Day 10: Take a hot bath
Hot water can relax your body and mind. Take a 10-minute bath today to release your stress deeply.
Day 11: Ask twice today, "What do I need?"
Ask yourself "What do I need?" Sometimes at different times of the day, the answers may be different. Listen to your current needs and respond to them.
Day 12: Watch a video that makes you laugh
Is there any comedy that you will never tired of? Or any short film that makes you laugh every time you watch it?
Day 13: Contact the gentlest person around you
People who are loving, gentle and positive in their hearts tend to emit a warm glow and filling those around them with energy. Call or send a message to the gentlest person around you and share about the recent stories!
Day 14: Buy something you wish to have for a long time
Shopping does have a stress-relieving effect. Just remember not to rely on shopping or overbuying to relieve anxiety and emptiness. Why not occasionally buy a small gift to make yourself happy?
Day 15: Declutter a small corner of the house
Throwing and sorting things could assist with cleaning up unhappy emotions. You don't have to do a whole room at a time. Let's start with a small corner today.
Day 16: Do something you always wanted to do
For example, going to a certain coffee shop, visiting a certain city, sending a message to a certain person, reading a new book etc Although these are not a priority, there is no need to wait and by doing it will bring extra happiness
Day 17: Directly or indirectly show affections
Show your love to someone around you today! You can either directly tell the person "love you" or "thank you" or indirectly cook a meal or do a favour for him.
Day 18: Think of three advantages for your shortcomings
Everyone has uneasy things, embarrassing flaws, or imperfections. Don't think about the negative side but try to think of three advantages for your shortcoming. For example, you may often feel that you are fat but in fact the chubby appearance has its own beauty.
Day 19: Make up your mind to let someone leave
This departure may be actual or psychological. Some people have lived in your hearts for too long and it’s time to empty the space and leave it to the next person.
Day 20: Don't force yourself
Don't force yourself to do things that you don't like, say things you don't want to say and meet people you don't want to see. Forget about politeness, social interaction, and image. Be yourself and don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself.
Day 21: Take 15-minute and write a diary
Spend 15 minutes to write down all the thoughts and feelings in your head. This is not an essay contest and no one will see what you write. Please be honestly with yourself and turn your thoughts into words.
Day 22: Close your eyes and listen to your heartbeat for 5 minutes
Find a quiet place to sit or lie down and spend 5 minutes attentively listening to your heartbeats. Forgot about other things for now.
Day 23: Let yourself be childish
Wake up the inner child, dance to the music casually, it’s okay to dance ugly; watch your childhood favorite cartoon, flip through childhood photos etc
Day 24: Choose one thing and forgive yourself
We have all done things that we regret, choose something in your heart that makes you regret and try to forgive yourself.
Day 25: Have a friendly communication with a stranger
Have a friendly communication with a stranger, such as replying to a post on a social networking site, sharing an article and smiling when meeting people on the road.
Day 26: Look out the window
There are many interesting treasures hidden in daily life. Look out from the window of your home or office and take a closer look at the movement of the world.
Day 27: Offer a favour
Try to do someone a favor, such as helping to lift heavy objects, helping the person behind when opening the door, making a cup of hot tea for your tired partner, etc.
Day 28: Recall the experience where you bounce back when you hit bottom
Have you ever been betrayed? Have you experienced disappointment? Recalling your experience of climbing from the bottom of the valley, you will realize that you are tougher than you think.
Day 29: 10 things you are grateful for
Write down 10 things you are grateful for. Think about it, what your life would be without these people and experience?
Day 30: I hope I will follow through throughout my life and treat myself gently
Life is full of ups and downs, if you don't treat yourself tenderly, who will? Treating yourself tenderly is not about self-centeredness, but practicing self-respect and self-love in daily life. When you become a person who loves yourself, you will also radiate warm light and illuminate the people around you
