Whenever we learn about a person cheating, the first thing we'd wonder is, "why did they cheat?", and often that question falls to an uncertain conclusion. There could be a number of catalysts that'd lead to infidelity, but if one were to be honest, wouldn't you want to know?
We've asked Malaysians who have openly admitted to cheating on their ex-partners, why they did what they did, and here are their answers:
Ammar, 27:
She caught me cheating the first time and to my surprise, she forgave me and said she really wanted this to work. Caught me the second time, still forgave me. Can't say I'd stopped doing it after that, too. I guess I've gotten used to being pardoned because I knew she wouldn't do anything about it. She broke up with me after the fourth time I cheated.
Natasha, 21:
We were doing long-distance, and after some time, he stopped prioritizing me. We'd go days without communicating, and I've tried many times to make it work, but it all felt one-sided. In my moment of weakness, I responded to my DMs and went out with a guy. Not trying to justify cheating in any way, but it was a very low moment for me.
Joshua Tan, 29:
I cheated, because my wife cheated. I watched my father go through hell when my mother was caught having a relationship with his best friend, so my definition of love has been pretty skewed since young, I'd say. I never really had a strong faith in women, to begin with, but I'd met someone I wanted to marry and I learned to commit. One day though, when I caught her cheating, I was surprised at how calm I was. Like it was something to be expected, something that is naturally bound to happen.
So, I just started asking out this girl I've met through Instagram, and we have sex occasionally. My wife knows, and we're still married.
Mohd Fateh, 51:
It's humiliating to even admit it now, but I was very young and thought I had options. My wife knew, and she still stood by me for the sake of our children. I'd come home smelling like another woman, and my wife would still greet me as gentle as she always was. It was all for the excitement and the thrill of being with younger women who knew how to have fun. But as I'd have learned in time, that is bound to get old.
We're divorced and my ex-wife is happily married now, and I am both hurting and happy for her.
The subject of infidelity, while controversial and tendentious, is something worth digging deeper into, as gaining other perspectives as to why people cheat could teach us a thing or two about the complexity of a relationship. One thing that will never be up for debate is that, the act of cheating should never be condoned, or normalized in a monogamous relationship.
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